Who Enables the Enablers?
An enabler in most definitions is a person who through his or her actions allows someone else to achieve something. Most often the term enabler is associated with people who allow loved ones to behave in ways that are destructive. For example, an enabler wife of an alcoholic might continue to provide the husband with alcohol. A person might be an enabler of a gambler or compulsive spender by lending them money to get out of debt.
In this fashion, though the enabler may be acting out of love and trying to help or protect a person, he or she is actually making a chronic problem like an addiction worse. By continuing to lend money to the gambler, for example, the gambler doesn’t have to face the consequences of his actions. Someone is there to bail him out of trouble and continue to enable his behavior. [click to continue…]
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What is Co Dependent? This is not just a description of someone who is dependent. It refers more to someone with a dependent personality.
Co dependent was once used to define a person who perpetuates the alcohol or drug of someone close to them in a way that hampers recovery.
“The classic situation is the husband gets drunk, can’t go in to work, so the wife calls the boss and says he won’t be in today.”
Thus giving the partner direct control over the dependent. Making excuses for their dysfunctional behavior or relieving them of the consequences of the dependent. In an act called enabling, this can have negative social and health consequences for both parties.
Today’s psychologists have a broader definition and refer to patients with co dependent issues as having an unhealthy dependent personality and emotional dependencies.
Relationships that harbor; guilt; shame; repressed anger; low self-esteem are probably more susceptible to co dependent issues.
Marriage and family therapists often find that couples compromise their own values to avoid another person’s rejection or anger, an act of keeping the peace at all costs.
Symptoms of a co dependent relationship may include controlling behavior, distrust, perfectionism, avoidance of feelings, problems with intimacy, excessive care taking, and hyper vigilant or physical illness related to stress.
Co dependent is often accompanied by clinical depression, as the co dependent person succumbs to feelings of frustration or sadness over his or her inability to improve the situation.
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