Hi Everyone,
In view of the interest in the last guest post Gary invited me to submit another.
This time I wanted to offer something a little different than the previous.
So this will in fact be in 2 parts.
This will become apparent as you continue to read. And as you do so you will notice different ways in which you would work with this hypothetical scenario. Enjoy…
38 year old male contacted me via my web site Dawn Pugh
Part 1
At our initial free consultation I became aware that this guy needed help dealing with his wife and her deliberate sabotage of their 15 year marriage.
He was so consumed by her destructive nature, she enveloped his whole existence.
They had been married for quite some time – they were a childless couple, having experienced difficulties in conception, tried IVF for the allowed subsidized attempts, all to no avail and absolute devastation and total disappointment.
He compared their marriage to a ride on a rollercoaster, up and down; never quite knowing what would be around the next corner. Although having obvious feelings toward his wife he had considered leaving once or twice in the past, he also disclosed an affair some 5 years ago, he described this as –
“Just someone he had once worked with, nothing special”-
On exploration she had eased the grief and loss he had felt with their numerous miscarriages, so helping him come to terms with the endless disappointments.
His wife sadly had self harmed – Something this guy needed help in understanding self harming behaviours.
Slapping her self continuously, trapping fingers in doors until they bled, pulling her own hair resulting in clumps missing from her beautiful natural long blonde hair.
At this point he began to sob…I gave him time to express those tears of worry and frustration…
Once he had collected himself. And in my wise and caring manner suggested that he bring his wife to see me, he said he would talk to her and try to encourage her to attend.
I also added that I would want to spend the session face to face with her alone. We made an appointment for Friday of that week.
She arrived, tall, blonde, and in fact very beautiful. I was pleased she had listened to her distraught husband.
I want you to think about – where the work lies and what you would havedone in this situation.
Let me ask you all to share with us your thoughts and ideas in relation to this first session. Submit all your comments in the box below.
I am listening…
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